Stop Feeling Guilty: The One Question to Ask Yourself

Be your own friend.

When guilt creeps up on you, ask yourself: What would I tell a friend?

Get Rid of Guilt About Me Time

I went for a walk after work and felt guilty. I felt guilty for doing something for myself.  So I asked myself, what would I tell a friend?

You go! Good job for staying active.

And it helped relieve the guilt and put things into perspective.  You are not alone in craving some time for you, especially  you Mommas like me.  Read the Importance of Taking Time for Yourself.

Taking time for yourself doesn’t just feel great and give you the ump to get back in and full engage in your life, it also  has other benefits I didn’t know about which you can read a 7 Benefits of Me-Time.

Get Rid of Guilt About My Choices

Oreos, ice cream, and donuts. More please.  I love desserts too much.  Then the guilt sets in.

What would I tell a friend?

One day at a time doesn’t work.  One meal at a time does.   Try again the next meal. Don’t beat yourself up about it. Do better tomorrow.  Prepare yourself to help avoid the temptation by having an alternative sweet ready.

Food guilt is a common complaint. I ate too much of this or that.  When I read the science behind food cravings, it’s no wonder. Emotions and eating are closely related.  Just ask any woman who’s had a bad day or breakup.  Me, I crave sweets like ice cream. No ice cream.  I suddenly have the desire to make dessert or pudding.

Now that I know the science behind it and why I struggle to say no, I can take steps to manage it.  I can make a smoothie. I can write in my journal or go for a walk if it’s anxiety related.

Understanding yourself the root of your choices, gives you power.  The power to make informed choices that will have a direct impact on your problem.

It’s Not Just  You: It’s a Cultural Thing

I am currently loving Jen Hatmaker’s Fierce,Free, and Full of Fire: The Guide to Being Glorious You.  In one part of the book she talks about how we love and support the women around us, but won’t give ourselves the same.  This needs to change. We need to be kind to ourselves. We need to celebrate the small steps.  There’s enough negativity in the world without piling more on ourselves.

When you can put some distance between you and your guilt, when you can see beyond the emotions it entangles you in, you are able to have a broader perpsective and realize

you already have the answer inside yourself. 

May you practice self compassion and give yourself some encouragement.  You deserve it!

 

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